Date: 2017-08-01 02:43
9. Post the CORRECT city and state where you live in your profile. It sounds simple and common sense, but intentionally posting an incorrect city and state does happen.
Women get some creepy comments but some nice comments too. Men get no responses and are wasting their time on money on these sites. Wise up.
There are some very interesting posts here. For the ladies I would say I'm sorry that you have to put up with so many rude, insulting, crass men and their messages. Very unfortunate, but most likely the culmination of a cultural whirlwind that has swept over the land the last 55 years or so.
I typically respond to messages from women that I have no interest in and do so in a polite manner, encouraging them to stick with it as it takes time to find the right person online.
However, I don't think the online dating model is productive, for all the reasons mentioned in the posts below. And to those that say that millions of people have met and married via online dating sites, I say prove it with hard data, not conclusory statements bereft of evidence.
I consider myself to be a nice guy. But I'm also well educated, financially successful, great at conversation, have zero baggage to worry about, exercise regularly, and am quite skilled at using humor to my advantage. But man, I sympathize with a lot of the guys. If you're not careful, this online dating thing can really get you down if you take it too seriously.
A few words of advice about online dating:
6. Posting pictures on your profile is paramount. But unless people viewing your profile are interested in photography, they are only interested in pictures of YOU. They are NOT interested in pictures of your family, pets, vacation, etc. so do not post these kind of pictures.
Agree totally. The way women present themselves provokes how men will react. When I see genuine and cute profile, I try to be as well mannered as possible, I don't want to loose this opportunity. But when I see a woman that I don't like and she's a bit off, like desperate or bitchy, then my first idea is to ask her if she agrees to have sex with me, nothing else. I don't do it because I'm fully aware that it doesn't work that way and I simply don't message her. But this illustrates the difference between my messages based on women's profiles.
men on the other (such as I) hand have it much more difficult, getting no replies at all, being ignored, like they don't worth a grain of salt,
that's much worse than having some douche approaching you.
To the people who are complaining about scammers:
A good way to avoid scammers is asking for a picture of him/her on which he/she has to put her right thumb on her left ear while she makes a V-sign with her left hand. Just an example but you get the idea, if he/she does, than you know it 8767 s a real person because let 8767 s be honest here, who on earth has a picture like that online to steal?
Either way I think it is common courtesy for people to reply to messages even if your not interested, I know yes the guy/girl would then ask why and probably be on the end of a block or a report but it is good to know why maybe he/she is not interested rather than us pondering why they looked and didn 8767 t bother replying
If a girl doesn t reply to your message, don t bombard her with the messages like &ldquo Where are you?&rdquo or &ldquo Hey&rdquo . It&rsquo s likely she is thinking about the answer or she is just offline. Be patient and don t stalk her. Also, it s advisable to compose a long informative letter rather than write many short messages in a row.
I set up an experiment once, just to see one of the reasons, why guys might struggle on these sites. I set up a female profile, with permission using a female friends photo's. Within 7-5 minutes of setting up the profile, creating a fake bio. the fake profile had between 65-75 messages from different guys. and over 85 Meet Me's.
I totally agree, txt should be used to supplement communication, not replace. I also notice it 8767 s more common among guys (early 85 8767 s or Perhaps some women that age don 8767 t mind as they 8767 re used to it, but I think it 8767 s a step backwards in evolution.
In the old days,people just met partners I. School, at church or at work and found a way to make it work. Now you have a seemingly unlimited supply of partners. Even when you find one that is good enough, the current societal conditioning not to settle for anything for the best, or 'the one' just means the search continues. The 'top ' as in the most desirable of both sexes on these sites go on dates upon dates and most of them never quite find what they are looking for. Making us all a little more shallower as a whole.
So we are left with a very complicated answer to what seems like a reasonably simple question. Unfortunately we are dealing with complex systems based upon an unequal distribution of wealth, power and knowledge. My explanation is quite limited in its scope but explains the answer as I see it. Unfortunately the answer I've given also infers similar issues with offline dating as ultimately this has little to do with the internet and more to do with society.
Sorry you cannot get anyone interested in you. Stop asking women out who are way more attractive than you. She isn't into bad boys, you're just not attractive to her and keep trying to punch above your weight.